The meaning and the blessing of marriage: Staying Emotionally Connected

I remember when I was in school, we had finished classes and all my classmates went on vacation, in my family it is not customary to travel or do large activities so during my vacation I was at home, playing, watching movies, reading; When I returned to school, my teacher asked us each of us to talk about our vacations, a traveling companion to another city to visit, another outside the country, others went to camp, and when it was my turn I had to say with simplicity that I had read books and played, I felt bad, since I was the only one who had not done any big activity, so I was not happy as my companions who had great adventures. In the recess inquiring with my companions about their adventures, it turned out that most had been bored in their activities, I thought that then I had the best vacation because if I had fun, I had been happy, a happiness that could be overshadowed by appearances.

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Do not think that nothing happens, simply because you do not see your growth ... big things grow in silence, and in family life something similar can happen, we expect great romantic moments that embellish our relationship, epic kisses and motivating phrases, surely accompanied by a background music, although not impossible most of the big scenes like these happen in the movies and we measure those moments with ours, and we long for scenes or characters of such magnitudes, considering ours as routine or even boring, without appreciating the small moments that we passed as a couple, as it says in D & C. 64:33 "Wherefore, be not a woman in bwell-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work And out of csmall things proceedeth that which is great."

Life is definitely what you make of it and sadly, I think you would be hard pressed, in this day and age to find many who were content with their vacation time, whether traveling or not. You are absolutely right, "by small and simple things are great things brought to pass" (Alma 37:6). What little things? Well, things like paying attention to our partner, a question about their day, sharing a tedious task, a hobby, etc., I have not even continued with the negativity that your partner could say, many times a couple goes to their partner. rude way, because he had a bad day or because he is upset, it will depend on how we respond to what caused the fight or a dialogue, it is difficult to be patient and loving when your partner is criticizing you, When we feel irritated with each other, it is an opportunity to grow. Irritation is an invitation to think and act better. It is about replacing irritation with compassion and charity; replacing the accusation with humility; replacing frustration with the invitation. As Elder Jeffrey R. Holland observed, "Too often too many of us run from the very things that will bless us and save us and soothe us. Too often we see gospel commitments and commands as something to be feared and forsaken. "

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Small acts can put out a fire, appease a beast with gentle movements to gain their confidence and confirm that we are on their side (only as a demonstrative example, not that our partner is comparable to a wild animal). We need to stay connected emotionally, the way it is done with small actions, not with great activities and pompous romantic scenes, a sincere interest, a simple demonstration of love can have more long-term effect, like my vacations, were simple actions, but the knowledge that wins to read this with me despite the years, a vacation can relieve stress, and have good memories, but the bad memory is easy to forget and distort, my point is that we build a building of love, and every brick counts.