Building a relationship

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Many times we believe that happy marriage, is one that has no conflicts, the number of peels is minimal, but we would be ignoring a great reality, human coexistence is complicated. Peels between marriage are common, but how to prevent conflicts from destroying my marriage? In this post I want to address what Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington, explains in his book Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work that to handle conflict in a healthier way is construction in the strongest marriages, the husband and The wife shares a deep sense of meaning. Not only do they "get along", but they also rely on the hopes and aspirations of others and build a sense of purpose in their lives together, and this has deeper benefits than we think, not only build a strong relationship and healthier, but also has an effect on our health, on children and on our self-esteem.

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Building a relationship is more than simply feeling in love or knowing the other's routine, it's that your happiness depends on your partner's feelings. They are in tune with the emotions of others, share a permanent empathy and have a high degree of confidence, what could help us to strengthen this confidence? From my point of view and conclusion of the readings, it is first to understand what is the concept of marriage of each member, because it is not enough the result that can offer google or the dictionary, but the very definition of marriage has nailed the feelings of each, the objectives of each couple, to be clear about what my objective is, and what is the objective of my partner, you can elaborate what are the objectives of the marriage, this offers a clearer and wider vision about each person. According to Kyle Benson, in analyzing Dr. Gottman's work, "the difference between happy and unhappy couples is the balance between positive and negative interactions during conflict. There is a very specific proportion that makes love last. "And this is the most important thing, love is what will last the trust and the relationship.

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As we saw in the previous post, one of the difficulties in marriage is the second wolf that are the own imperfections, this comes to be selfishness, pride, anger, rancor, negativity itself, then how can we free from these emotions that are so deep in us? In the book of Mormon in Mosiah 3:19 it says: "For the natural man is an enemy to God, and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit , and putteth off the natural man and becometh to saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict Upon him, even as a child submit to his father. "All these attributes are necessary to cultivate a good fulfillment, and to grow as people, we can bring a spirit of reconciliation and kindness. When we insult the dignity of the family members, we create a system of Grudge and resentment. We lose whatever influence we might have had. (PhD H. Wallace Goddard, 2009). To cultivate these feelings we must connect spiritually, be humble to find the guidance of the Lord Jesus Christ, second we must see our partner as a person, not as an object or a title, but recognize their humanity, third recognize our own problems and be aware of our acting and fourth acting as a team, as good friends.

References:

Goddard, H.W. (2007). Drawing Heaven Into Your Marriage. (Links to an external site.)Links to an external site. Fairfax, VA: Meridian Publishing