Power Relations

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One of the marital problems that is repeated regardless of the country is the inequality of power between spouses, even up to the relationship of father with children, it must find a conjugal harmony, this is achieved when the couple, living with a love relationship together with actions that reflect it, especially in that the man, that culturally speaking has been he who has always taken the power to make decisions, he must give power to his wife, not to rule only her, but to exist a balanced relationship, as Richard Miller shares "Thus, research constantly finds that happy relationships are more likely to occur in marriages where the couple shares power and has a true partnership."

Now, for the relationship to be stable, it is absolutely necessary that the two persons be such, that is, human persons; and the maturity of the person is achieved through education, the predominance of moral and spiritual values ​​over material, intellectual and, even, cultural.

Moreover, the touchstone of a person's maturity is the ability to seek the good of the other person over personal interests. It can only be called mature (a) who has overcome self-love, caprice and self-sufficiency, to live in function and at the service of the other person. This is true love, a sign of maturity and a guarantee of conjugal stability. These spiritual values ​​must be accompanied by the Holy Ghost which are "the powers of heaven, and that the powers of heaven can not be controlled nor handled only upon the principles of righteousness ... persuasion, long-suffering, gentleness, meekness, love unfeigned, kindness , and pure knowledge, which will greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and without guile "(D & C 121: 36, 41-42).

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How to cultivate these values ​​in the relationship? When I served on a mission in Lima-Peru, the only way we could have an equal and effective relationship to achieve our goals was to work together through councils, important moments to discuss our achievements, goals and problems, plan the plan to meet to solve the problems and meet our goals, we expressed what we individually learned from our study of the scriptures, we asked for advice and we listened to some criticism, not in order to start a fight, but to avoid future fights, we did not humble ourselves to understand the other and prevent pride from blinding us and finding better ways to solve it. In families it is more important to carry out councils where the couple can dialogue, understand and share their goals, achievements and problems, in a healthy environment, where one partner does not have the power over another, but in an equitable environment, talking about solutions more than problems, cultivate those powers of heaven in our relationship.