MARRIAGE TRENDS

In Ecuador the number of marriages has decreased by 19% between 2006 and 2018, while divorce has increased in the same years 49% according to data from the INEC (data collection institution of Ecuador) also concludes that the average from years of marriage until her divorce is 14 years, while the average age to get married is 32 for men and 29 for women.

According to The State of our unions declares that marriage is a social institution, which is not only a union of a couple, but is more complex as it strengthens cooperation, strengthens children, strengthens communities and overcome social adversities , economic; If this agreement between marriage breaks down and becomes unbalanced it could bring difficulties, not only to the spouses' status, but consequences to children in social and psychological areas, so the problem of divorce is much more serious than it seems. In Ecuador, the reasons why marriages decide to divorce are given by mutual agreement in 62%, reasons whether personal or financial, with 30% of the unjustified abandonment by one of the spouses, and 1.4% for adultery or serious injuries.

In his book The Impact of Family Formation Change on the Cognitive, Social, and Emotional Wellbeing of the Next Generation by the author Paul R. Amato states that the impact it offers on children, whether it is divorce, cohabitation, single parent families, has a negative effect on children, either in their social behavior in the studies, with their personal life, depression, more violent behavior, low self-esteem, among others is present, this is due to the economic difficulty that arises in a single-parent family, excess of tasks to a father, the decrease in quality of relationship with children.

What Amanto concludes is that families composed of both parents and stable receive a healthier environment, greater intimate relationship, greater cooperative participation, fewer stressful events. What the reality in Ecuador offers me is a tendency towards a single-parent family, due to economic difficulties many of the parents had to leave the country to provide some food for their family, as is my case, I grew up with my family. mother, and despite spending many economic difficulties I never lacked love and strengthening, although my case may present social problems, I only take it as an isolated example that I can confirm in Amanto's conclusions on the consequences that children have in separated families.

The president of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Spencer W. Kimball, declared: "... only those who believe deeply and actively in the family will be able to preserve their families in the midst of the evil that surrounds us." What could we really find on this tape? Well, first we have to understand the reason why people get married, and if people understand the truth through marriage as a sacred covenant between two people, understand the objectives of marriage, they will understand that marriage provides greater possibilities of obtaining Happiness than any other kind of relationship, and if they understand that they will strive to take out all the potential and fight for it even when evil surrounds us.

So, to conclude the marriage is important, that is why it should not be a decision by tradition or custom, but an intimate decision, knowing the difficulties, knowing the other person, more important to oneself, because marriage is not a Simply a personal decision, but a decision that will attract future generations, as Elder Oaks taught. "The couple must learn everything they can about the families with whom they will soon be united in marriage. In all this, we must realize that a good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only takes a man and a woman committed to strive together towards perfection. "Divorce is not the solution to the problems of the family, in Ecuador as we already mentioned there are a large percentage of people who divorced for personal or financial reasons, there are reasons to divorce, but the remedy is not divorce but repentance.

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